Being nice shouldn’t cost you yourself.
People Pleasing Therapy Federal Way, WA
Support for women who are tired of over-giving in relationships and are ready to self-prioritize.
Imagine a life where you don’t spend every minute thinking about everyone’s needs…
You’ve spent so much time thinking about what everyone else needs, wants, expects, or might be upset about that you don't always know what you need anymore. You answer questions with “whatever you want” or “I don’t care” but the truth is you really don’t know what you want or like because you’ve lost your sense of self. Who are you beyond what you provide to others?
Somewhere along the way you learned that safety, connection, and love are conditioned upon what you bring to your relationships. While this has been a useful tool, it’s now draining your energy. You’re tired of living life for everyone else’s benefit and want to feel more connected to yourself. You want to feel more secure in your relationships by setting boundaries and not feeling guilty about it. You want to feel less anxious when there’s a possibility you might disappoint or anger someone. You want to feel more confident in taking up space rather than making yourself small so others are comfortable.
This is possible through therapy that focuses on healing the wounds and messaging that led you to over-accommodate and self-sacrifice. You can have balanced, reciprocal relationships while putting yourself first.
Let’s figure out how to prioritize yourself.
People pleasing therapy in Federal Way, WA is the right fit for you if:
You’re afraid of upsetting others
You have a hard time saying no or setting boundaries
You avoid taking up space physically and emotionally
You apologize for things that aren’t your fault
You feel responsible to fix other peoples’ issues
You put everyone else first
You were parentified as a child
Love feels conditional in relationships
You worry that prioritizing yourself is selfish
Does this sound like you? Then you’re in the right place. I’ll support and guide you through healing childhood and relationship wounds that have led to people-pleasing behaviors, where you will ultimately start prioritizing yourself. You’ll know therapy is working when you can voice your needs and boundaries without guilt, stop caretaking when it’s not necessary, stop apologizing for existing, and tolerate someone’s negative emotions toward you.
WHAT WE’LL DO TOGETHER
People pleasing therapy in Federal Way, WA can help you:
Find your voice
You’ll get comfortable expressing what you think, feel, want, and need, even if someone doesn’t like it. You’ll practice communicating directly without overexplaining, apologizing, or taking responsibility for everyone’s feelings.
Build boundaries
You’ll learn how to communicate your limits, say no, and tolerate the discomfort that can come with putting yourself first. You’ll change the belief that boundaries are selfish.
Trust yourself
You’ll let go of self-doubt, overthinking, and fear of disappointing others that make it hard to trust your own choices. You learn to stop letting others’ reactions define your choices.
Common questions about people pleasing therapy in Federal Way, WA:
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Therapy uses cognitive and somatic tools to help you reconnect with your own needs and assert them which benefits individuals and relationships.
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Therapy goals for people-pleasing focus on building self-worth, setting firm boundaries, and tolerating emotional discomfort of saying no.
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No. Self-advocacy and kindness are not mutually exclusive.
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It often can. People pleasing is sometimes known as “fawning",” which is a survival strategy where a person appeases others to avoid conflict, rejection, or perceived danger. It can also be learned through family dynamics, cultural conditioning, or social environments where having distinct boundaries wasn't safe or rewarded.