Your Therapy Questions, Answered: FAQs from a Federal Way Therapist

Starting therapy can be exciting, relieving, and also... totally nerve-wracking. If you’re a millennial woman used to putting everyone else first, even reaching out to a therapist can feel like a big leap. As a Federal Way therapist who supports people-pleasers in reclaiming their voice, I know that making space for yourself is no small thing. And I also know how many questions come up before you ever step into that first session.

So let’s talk about it. Below are some of the most common questions I hear about therapy in Federal Way, WA—along with honest, no-shame answers.

What happens in the first session?

First sessions are mostly about getting to know each other. I ask questions about your background, what brings you to therapy, and what you’re hoping to get out of it. You don’t need to come in with a script or have everything figured out. If you're feeling overwhelmed, that's okay—we'll slow it down and go at your pace. The first session is less about diving into "fixing" things and more about building a connection.

Common questions answered

What if I don’t know what to talk about?

Totally normal. Many people worry they won’t know what to say or that their problems aren’t "big enough." In therapy, no issue is too small. Sometimes, we start with what’s happening in your day-to-day life and gently explore deeper patterns. Part of my job as your therapist is to help guide the conversation in a way that feels supportive and productive.

How often should I go to therapy?

Most people begin with weekly sessions because it creates momentum and consistency. That said, therapy is flexible. Some folks shift to biweekly or monthly sessions over time. We’ll collaborate to figure out what works best for your goals and your schedule.

What if I start crying or get emotional?

Tears are welcome here. In fact, it’s pretty common for people to feel emotional in therapy, especially if they’re not used to having space to talk about themselves. Many of my clients are caretakers, fixers, or high achievers who haven’t had the chance to really feel their feelings. Therapy is a safe container where your emotions are not only allowed, they’re honored.

Do I have to talk about my childhood?

Only if it feels helpful. While many people-pleasing patterns are rooted in early life experiences, therapy isn’t about rehashing the past unless you want to. We focus on what's showing up for you now, and if it makes sense to explore earlier experiences, we do that gently and with your full consent.

Will my therapist judge me?

Absolutely not. Judgment has no place in the therapy room. I work with so many women who carry shame for things they’ve said yes to, put up with, or tolerated in order to keep the peace. My role is to hold space with compassion, curiosity, and zero judgment. You’re human—and therapy is a place where you get to be fully human, without apology.

How do I know if therapy is working?

Progress can look different for everyone. Some people start to feel lighter or more hopeful after a few sessions, while others notice change more gradually. Signs therapy is helping might include feeling more grounded, setting a boundary for the first time, or responding to a situation differently than you used to. It’s not about perfection—it’s about noticing the small shifts that add up over time.

What kind of therapy do you offer?

I use an integrative approach that draws from modalities like CBT, attachment theory, feminist therapy, and inner child work. That means we might explore thought patterns, relationship dynamics, nervous system responses, or past wounds depending on your goals. At the heart of it, therapy is collaborative and tailored to you.

What if I’m scared to be vulnerable?

It makes sense to feel nervous. Especially for people-pleasers who are used to staying strong for others, opening up can feel risky. The good news? You don’t have to spill everything all at once. We build trust over time, and your pace is always respected. Vulnerability is a skill, and therapy is a space where you get to practice it without pressure.

What does therapy cost and do you take insurance?

Therapy is an investment, and I get that it can feel like a big one. My goal is to be transparent about fees and provide referrals if we’re not a financial match. You can find out more about my fees here.

Summary

• The first session is a low-pressure space to explore your goals and get to know your therapist.

• You don’t need to have a crisis or know exactly what to say—therapy meets you where you are.

• Emotional expression is welcome, and vulnerability is something we build toward together.

• Therapy in Federal Way, WA is tailored to you and can focus on present struggles, past wounds, or both.

• There’s no one "right" way to do therapy. Your experience is valid, your feelings matter, and your growth is possible.

Be well,

Katie

If you've been thinking about reaching out but feel unsure, know that you’re not alone. Therapy is one of the most courageous and generous things you can do for yourself. Book a free consult and get started!

Have questions about counseling in Federal Way? Check out the FAQ page for more info.